Reflections on 15 Years of Togetherness

one of the most memorable days in life when draped in red, with smile and shyness we melt and express our gratitude. When blessings for eternal togetherness by family and friends shower on us. From the first day, then we live in this togetherness and keep on living in this matrimony till we breathe our last. While we sing the glory of the immortality of the soul, we know, our body is mortal and that somehow makes us live and love life even amidst the darkest of moments, such days of birthday and anniversary thus become although more special and memorable. They allow us to peep within and then reflect and introspect on our conjugal journey.

Guru and I completed 15 years of our wedlock yesterday. When we first met, he was in grade 5 and I in grade 1. His Uncle and my maternal Uncle got us admitted to Kendriya Vidyala and both of us embarked on our academic pursuits. Few days of that period, not knowing how life would tie us in this nuptial knot on one of the planes forever. It was in 2005 when we got married. City: Kashi, the seat of Shiva and Parvati.

We lived and survived some of the testing times. We laughed and cried in our times of crisis. Our memories of love and care make our knot strong and make us believe, as we shall walk further, our bond and reverence for each other shall strengthen. The focus shall be on our journey and evolution and allowing the other-self to be the best and most genuine version of themselves.

On reflection, some points of reference!

-Accepting each other the way we are.

-Taking care of one’s needs, wants, and desires.

-Pursuing our interests and allowing the other also to do so and participating in that if possible.

-Engaging in open and transparent communication.

-Understanding our likes and dislikes and not imposing on the other.

-Giving value to each other’s family and culture.

-When making mistakes, admitting them, and then trying to go past them.

-Taking care of each other while working on our emotional bond to nurture.

-Performing some meaningful rituals and following habits in togetherness.

-Sharing our stories of success and celebrating our failures.

-Keeping aside our egos and bringing peace in life for inner fulfillment and contentment.

-Respecting decisions of each other and not forcing our own perspectives.

A lot more than this, not all could be penned but living what all learnt and then progressing and helping each other in our life’s journey has been the purpose now.